By: Deborah Ross 2007 http://www.deborahrossministries.org
BEING INTENTINAL ABOUT YOUR MARRIAGE
PASS OUT:
SCRIPTURE VERSES / MARRIAGE PRAYER
***Turn off Cell Phones
1) Prayer – Leader Opens in Prayer
2) Each woman introduces herself & tells her greatest desire.
3) REMNANT WOMEN - Read Mission Statement - Encourage women to join on the DRM web-site...
4) SONG - Play “More than Words” – by Extreme (women close eyes and listen)
5) READ MARRIAGE PRAYER TOGETHER
6) Leader answers the annonymous questions that were turned in last week... according to God's Word.
Leader tells her story / reason for teaching this class.
REVIEW: Marriage Vows – For Better, for Worse – For Richer, for Poorer – In Sickness, and in Health
Marriage is God’s Idea –
READ: Matthew 19:1-9
*Intended to last “till death do us part” – Matthew 19:6 – “Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let no man put asunder.”
*Divorce is NOT God’s will! – Matthew 19:8 – “hardness of your hearts…but from the beginning it was not so…”
The number one thing that men crave the most is RESPECT!
Do you respect your husband? I didn't say, "Is he deserving of your respect?" I said, "Do you respect your husband... just because it's the right thing to do?"
Are you INTENTIONAL about making sure that YOUR MARRIAGE has a happily ever after ending?
WHY DO YOU THINK SO MANY “CHRISTIANS’ END UP DIVORCED? – get feed back and then offer the following suggestions…
(wheat & tares? / unforgiveness? / selfishness? / baby Christians? /
Generational curses?/ they give up?)
Do you pray for your husband? Prayer is vital. It should not be our last resort. Instead, it should be our only hope.
God’s Challenge: STOP NAGGING – MEN HATE IT!!! Start Praying!!!
Have different women share the scriptures below…
*Proverbs 19:13
*Proverbs 27:15-16
*Proverbs 21:19
*Proverbs 25:24
Jesus invites us to STOP NAGGING and START PRAYING.
READ LUKE 11:9-10 (ask, seek, find)
Leader Reads: HEALING A BROKEN MARRIAGE / LOVE NEVER FAILS: Chapter 7 – first 2 paragraphs only
REALIZE THAT YOU ARE IN A WAR OVER YOUR HUSBAND’S - AND YOUR FAMILY’S - SOUL!!!
1 Peter 5:8-9 “Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour. Whom resist steadfast in the faith, knowing that the same afflictions are accomplished in your brethren that are in the world.”
*The devil is studying YOU to find your weaknesses so that he may devour you.
*The devil uses the SAME TACTICS on everyone.
John 10:10 “The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that you might have life, and that you might have it more abundantly.”
Leader Reads: Ephesians 6:11-18
Ephesians 6:12 “For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.”
*Put on the armour of God everyday. (Ephesians 6:13-17)
*Pray always (without ceasing). VS 18 - Supplication = humble petition, entreaty (plea to stop the fighting “or warfare”, urgent request), earnestly, a humble request for help from someone in authority
*Pray in the spirit. VS 6:18 HOW??? 1) Pray God’s word!!! 2)Also: “groanings that cannot be uttered with words.” – Someone Read - Romans 8:26
To be discussed in more detail during a bonus session on the Holy Spirit - 1 Corinthians 14:14-15
Someone Read - James 4:1-8
*VS 1 – Don’t be ruled by your emotions. Be ruled by faith in the word of God.
*VS 2 – Don’t worry about what others have. You should ask your heavenly father for what YOU WANT. “you have not because you ask not”
*VS 3 – Are you asking for the Lord to work a miracle in your situation for your own sake or for the sake of the afflicted one (the sinner)? Check your MOTIVES. (ASK AMISS – you missed)
*VS 4 – If you expect to have God answer your prayer, you must also let go of the things of the world. Don’t be an enemy of God! Ask God to reveal to you areas of your life that you need to let go of.
*VS 5 – We serve a jealous God. He will not share His place in your heart with the things of this world. Quietly ask yourself what areas of life you are asking God to share a place with your earthly desires.
*VS 6 – God will give you GRACE to overcome this time of testing if you humble yourself and do things HIS way.
*VS 7 – Place yourself under the FAMILY ORDER of God (God, Jesus, Man, Woman – with the children under the man and the woman as they operate as one flesh). Don’t listen to the world’s way of marriage, but rather turn away from the devils teachings. This will cause you to walk in God’s blessing and favor concerning your marriage.
*VS 8 – Don’t be double minded about your mission as “the woman of his dreams”. A double minded person should not expect anything from God.
SEE - JAMES 1:6-8
REVIEW FAMILY ORDER… 1 CORINTHIANS 11:3-9
GOD, JESUS, MAN, WOMAN
Children
ORDER OF LIFE – God, Family, Business or Ministry
Ephesians 5:21-33 KJV – Order of the family…
REVIEW: Wife’s role & Husband’s role
SOMEONE MUST GO FIRST! Since YOU are the one at this bible study, YOU must initiate God's standard in your marriage. Don't say, "But...". Just trust the Lord and do YOUR PART. He will do the rest.
Vs. 33 Reverence = Notices him; Regards him; Honors him; Prefers him; Esteems him; Praises him; Loves and Admires him Exceedingly; Puts him first under God
Ephesians 6:10-18 – Spiritual Warfare – Talk about not warring after the flesh. The battle is not between you and your spouse. The battle is between you and the devil. Keep things in perspective.
Matthew 19:1-9 YOU AND YOUR SPOUSE ARE ONE FLESH. When you are ripped apart by divorce, it will leave you forever maimed. Divorce is allowed by Moses because of the "hardness of the hearts" of the people. Jesus said, let no man separate what God has joined together. Although God does make a way of escape – divorce - He also makes it clear that this is not His best. God's best is always reconciliation, forgiveness, salvation, peace, love, faith, and FAMILY WHOLENESS.
Luke 17:1-4 God will deal with those who have hurt you. Your job is to FORGIVE them. Rebuke their sin and then FORGIVE them. GET OVER IT! DROP IT! (See: Job 38, 39, 40 – The Lord speaks to Job in a whirlwind and says “GET OVER IT”.
LUKE 6:27-35
PROVERBS 21:9 – “It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.”
PROVERBS 12:4 – “A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones.”
Mark 11:26 – But if you do not forgive, neither will your father which is in heaven forgive your trespasses.
1 Peter 3 – Read this passage over and over again. I recommend that each woman in the group posts 1 Peter 3 on her refrigerator and reads through it everyday while we are doing this study. Let the Lord speak to you about your marriage.
Below is a breakdown of each verse for teaching purposes...
Vs 1 = Be in SUBJECTION = dictionary: Under the power of; owing allegiance to another; not independent; liable; under the power of another.
Own Husbands
Win them with your sweet conversation (also VS 3) that causes them to fear God because they see you speaking in the fear of God.
VS 3 & 4 = Your husband should love the inner person more than the outward person. Keep a meek and quiet spirit to win his affection.
VS 5 & 6 = Sara, Abraham’s wife, reverenced her husband and called him Lord. Sara was an outwardly beautiful woman even in old age. However, her inner beauty is what made her husband trust in her.
VS. 7 = Husbands honor your wife as the weaker vessel. God will show GRACE (give you what you don’t deserve) to you and ANSWER YOUR PRAYERS.
VS. 8 & 9 = AGREE! Be of one mind. Give blessing to your husband, even if he doesn’t deserve it! YOU WILL INHERIT A BLESSING if you do!
VS. 10 = Watch your MOUTH!!! Watch your TONE!!! Speak kind words. In disagreements, use pleasant tones.
VS. 11 & 12 = The Lord will bless YOU and answer your prayers, if you seek PEACE!
VS. 13 = Don’t worry about what the world says about your sufferings for this season. Jesus suffered for our sins. We too, should be ready and willing to suffer for our mates sins, knowing that the Lord will REWARD US in due season. God has all power to CHANGE your situation.
What do you need to forgive your husband/wife for? Bad business deal, yelling at the kids, something he/she did last year, being insensitive, being boring, drinking, pornography, adultery, leaving you alone, being irresponsible, nagging…?????
More Scriptures to Ponder…
Proverbs 16:6 – By mercy and truth iniquity is purged. Offer mercy to your spouse while holding up the standard of "truth", according to God's Word.
Proverbs 6:20 & 21 - …forsake not the laws of thy mother and father…(God’s Commandments)… 21 – Bind them continually upon thine heart, and tie them about thy neck. When you pray for your spouse, bind the Word of God to their heart and neck.
End - Prayer
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